‘ The story always begins the same way;
a girl dreams her dreams
even though she is degraded, unappreciated,
her beauty undiscovered, her true value maligned
by those who only see her as she appears.
The heart of the story takes place in her transformation,
brought about by the love of one who can see
beyond the surface of how she appears
or where she fits in society’s pecking order.
She sits near the fireplace, sleeps among the cinders.
She dreams that someday her prnce will come,
lift her up from her lowly situation,
and recognize her true beauty.
And yet, in spite of her dreams
she is disllusioned, limited by her reality.
She is still bound to slave away
and return to sit alone among the cinders.
She lives her life trying to please people,
feeling like everybody’s servant, giving herself away.
She has not the freedom to care for herself
but no one else is there to care for her.
(adapted from ‘Dancing in the arms of God’ by Conniel Neal)
Every woman desires for fulfillment, acceptance, unconditional love, security and validation. Many of us (woman or girls) grow up hoping that someday a man (the RIGHT man) will come to complete us and gives a ray of hope. Perhaps the desire for personal fulfillment is valid, but the hope is misplaced when we expect a ‘man’ to supply all we seek.
Being 33 years-old, most of my friends and cousins are married. Some with kids and the circle of ‘single’ friends are getting smaller as the year goes by. With every ‘ang pow’ i received and the same question of ‘When is your turn?’ has left me ponder with what love and marriage is, in God’s perspective.
Recovering from a past relationship, i’ve learned that i can only be made complete in Him. I grew up hoping that ‘someday my prince will come’ but the fact is, any woman who thinks a mortal man will fulfill her as a woman will eventually be disappointed. And so do i….
‘Listen, O daughter, consider and give ear;
Forget your people and your father’s house.
The king is entralled by your beauty;
honor him, for He is your Lord….
All glorious is the princess within her chamber;
her gown is interwoven with gold.
In embroidered garments she is led to the king;
her virgin companions follow her and are brought to you.
They are led in with joy and gladness;
they enter the palace of the king.’
(Psalm 45:10-11, 13-15)
God was letting me know that He was my Prince, my King. The people i grew up with, the guys i looked to in hopes that he would be my prince- none of these relationships could satisfy my deepest needs. Only God could lead me to true fulfillment.
Letting go of the remnants of our lost dreams takes tremendous courage. You know they may be shattered if they are not held firmly in your grasp. And yet the mystery of life is this:
Letting go, trusting the dreams you had for your life into the care of God, makes it possible for you to receive the dreams of God intended for you and me to become the woman of His dreams! Such wonderful blessings from the Lord!
The search for ‘true love’ will remains as it is..until i am made strong in Him, totally dependant in Him, only then..the ‘longing’ will be ‘fullfilled’ in His time.